Yesterday I read something that really
stood out for me, it was in Seth, “The Unknown Reality” by Jane Roberts. In it
he mentioned how a couple actually lived different realities. It was not that
they perceived the events differently, the events themselves were actually
different.
This resonated with me. Often people especially when married or
together seem to exhibit a gulf in their understanding. They can hold to
conflicting versions of an event and become infuriated that the other does not
see it their way. But what if the supposedly same event each live, really is different?
I have often heard the saying: “there’s his
version, her version and then the truth.” But I am coming to believe that there
is no overarching Truth. There is only that which is valid for each person.
If we stop trying to persuade each other of
the validity of our truth above anyone else’s, we can open up to a more
profound communication and a much less conflictive one. This easily applies to
all social relationships.
We live very different lives. Our lives are
even made up of seemingly concrete sense perceptions that differ. What I
physically see in my version of reality, you may not see in yours and vice
versa. This does not mean that either vision is flawed.
We have spent so long in homogenising our
versions of realities and I feel that we have done so out of fear. There seems to
be a consensus of what reality and our experience within it should consist of,
but it seems to become incrementally more limited as we progress. More fear
seems to creep in.
There needs to be a common denominator that
we communicate upon, a base through which we can reach other. However, there is
a tendency to bulldoze out variety in favour of sameness.
The sameness, however, does not bring unity.
I feel that it brings more fear. We attack what is different, we place blame,
we feel threatened and our insecurity mounts.
It creates a conflict, because by not
accepting the differences, we find ourselves at odds with it. We feel we should
all be working from the same page and yet our experience tells us that we are
not. We cannot accept this due to our beliefs and so greater disappointment and
frustration is created.
What I have been experiencing is that the
more I respect and honour the variety and difference, the more I apprehend and
am overawed by the Unity inherent it all.
In a homogenised view of reality, my
potential will be limited, as will my view of others potentials. The more I
loosen the grip on what reality should be, the greater expanse I have to
tap for my gifts.
We can see this playing out in education.
If I only look for and credit those who have a propensity to be
scientists, I will not see the artists. The same occurs in my version of
reality, if it is small and limited, only that which fits will be recognised.
But what about all the gifts that lie beyond that scope? How could they
flourish were another version given the chance to be possible?
If I can begin to accept that we are often
living different realities that at times overlap and intersect, I can actually
go further in relating and honouring another person. Instead of focusing on where
they do not fit with or even replicate me, I can respect where they come from.
My reality is a product of my understanding
and I communicate from this point. As my understanding shifts, so does my
reality and so does my form of communication. I used to feel that if I spoke to
another about their beliefs then I had to be true to myself, even if that meant
being at odds with them. It was really about prioritising my model over theirs.
I see now though, that when I communicate,
I can be true to myself through my intent, but I have the freedom to change my
words. I can symbolically describe things that another can relate to, I can use the points of their model, though it
does not have to be my current view. My
words can become a symbol of love as I seek the language that can most reach
another person in their chosen reality.
I believe that part of humanity’s path at
this time is to see how far we could go from our connection to the Divine. Once
we were as separated as possible, the creative adventure is for us to explore
the variety of ways to reconnect with that Source. As we reconnect, we get to tap
the great love and the inspirational Oneness available to us.
Perhaps we are playing this out in
microcosm with each other. We are seeing how separate we can become to each
other in order to discover the love that exists in the journey of reconnecting?
By recognising the differences we actually
honour the multitudinous pathways back available on this journey.
As we seek to reconnect in this way, we birth
a whole new set of realities.
